Tag: men

Witnessing our children in love

Witnessing my children in their own adult loving relationships is a gift I had no idea I could love so much. Knowing that the way Rory and I have loved each other throughout their years of growing up ultimately has had an impact on who they choose to be in relationship with and how they

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Pegging equals power? Not for me.

Years ago my husband offered to let me peg him because he had read some studies about how it helps women who have been sexually assaulted get their power back. I even bought a strap on. But I never could bring myself to even think about it. The idea of needing to have power over

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The pendulum swing

When I hear people say they can’t feel my husband because he doesn’t share his deepest feelings on Facebook it only tells me how little they actually know him. If you were at our vow renewal last year you know exactly what im talking about. You can see a small snippet via the photos even.

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For the people who ask what makes our relationship last

Recently I have been experiencing another death and rebirth of my marriage. The ever falling away and new things being introduced. This called for me to stand in a power that I don’t normally stand in because I don’t need to. It called for my husband to stand back, stand up and step in, in

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Truly Choose Your Woman

When you choose a woman, truly choose her. Not the wishy washy choosing. Choose all of her. Choose the depths of her rage. Choose the heights of her unabandoned love. Choose the messiness of her way of living life. Choose the calling forward she offers your soul when she witnesses you holding back. You don’t

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Find yourself before getting in a relationship?

If you are in a position to really find yourself before getting involved with another human – amazing! If however, like me, you are already married or in a long term relationship I have something to say to you. (I will use the term marriage from here on) Marriage is the ultimate training ground. And

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A man up for a challenge

No matter what I challenge this man with he always steps up to it. I don’t know or respect another man more deeply than I do him. I married him for a reason. Not that I knew it back then. He willingly owns every part of himself even when his ego doesn’t want him to.

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Feedback is your friend

“You feel different”. It’s a comment I receive so regularly now. I’m not really surprised, I am grateful though, when it comes from the people who have been at ground level of my development work because they have seen me warts and all. When it comes from my friends who have been in my life

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The beauty of Unconditional Love

What is loving someone unconditionally? First I’ll tell you what it’s not. At least not in my reality. Let me know if you agree or disagree. Even better tell me in the comments what you believe unconditional love is after you have read this post! It’s not allowing someone to control you from insecurity. It

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Abortion – My body, My choice.

All this talk of abortion has me feeling so many things. I know many women feel guilt and shame around having had an abortion. I mean after all you only have to see what’s going on in the media right now to realize why that is happening. Some women never talk about their abortion for

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