Shannii Maree – Strong Without Realising
Life through the eyes of a woman who had no idea how strong she was becoming
I have heard people say that being in the mother role is using our masculine side to lead our children. Well, it’s normally been women without children who have made statements such as this. (No hate, just an observation) In reality, or my personal belief, it’s our feminine side because our children lead us. They
I have been trying to figure out why this feeling as a Glamma is so different to any other feeling I’ve ever felt. This Aroha truly is a love like no other. There have been moments of tears where I have had no idea what I was feeling, yet coming to realise that it’s because
This week we got to bury my first grandchild’s whenua/placenta. 😭 In New Zealand, within my Maori culture there is an ancient practice of burying the placenta after birth which is seen as a ‘gift’ to Papatūānuku – Mother Earth . I didn’t get to partake in this practice with my children. But now I
You teach your children how to be respectful by respecting them. They are humans. Not your little robot to control. I caused a trigger for a young woman the other week for saying I don’t smack my kids and that boundaries and respect can be taught without resorting to hitting them, in response to a
I received what I consider a compliment recently that I FUCKING loved! And I want other mothers to hear it. Because as mothers we deserve to not be saddled with an image of perfectness. The comment was: “I finally caught up to you and stopped trying to be a perfect mother and now I’m having
My opinion on the issue with society and when it comes down to parenting is this – We have been told over and over that we don’t know best. That we can’t trust our own voices and bodies. That other people know better. That’s why there are parents who run to the ER with every
I’ve seen all the creams and surgeries and tips on getting rid of my stretch marks. And yes I have tried many of them myself. I’ve now also spent a long time loving my stretch marks and the way they sit on my body. I love the dimples, I love the colours, I love what
The more I crack open deeply, the more parts of myself I find that I haven’t been giving love to. And the deeper I go the more I discover the depths of love I still have to give to the parts of myself I thought I had been loving wholly. It’s been a powerful journey
My kids have seen me laughing. My kids have seen me breaking down. My kids have seen me in raw, primal, unbound sadness where I didn’t control any of the sounds coming out of me. And I love that. Because what doesn’t seem like very long ago I was a woman who held it all
I’ve just now realized that the whole 9 months mum spent carrying me were probably spent numb and not wanting to connect just in case the same thing happened again. You see, my mum experienced 9 stillbirths and miscarriages before she had me. She had to grieve that many babies before I arrived. Womb trauma.
Shannii Maree - Strong Without Realising 