You Don’t Find a Woman Like Me. You Become the Man Who Can Keep Her.

When I hear Men say they wish they had a wife like me or they just need a wife like me I have a giggle to myself.

Because you have to be a certain type of man that gets a wife like me. 

You have to be a man who can handle a wife like me.

My husband goes above and beyond compared to any of the men who make these kinds of statements. 

He’s the kind of man who will drive me where I need to go just so I don’t have to do it.

He’s the kind of man who would rather work 3 jobs than have me do even 1 that I don’t enjoy.

He’s the kind of man who is Dad to the kids that aren’t even his by blood.

He’s the kind of man who respects every human and stands tall in his devotion and beliefs and can’t be shaken.

He has a backbone.

He’s not a soft, overly emotional spiritual guy. But don’t mistake that for having no emotions and being unstable for me. Because he will cry when he needs to. And so many can attest to seeing him and his emotions.

I get to be the kind of wife men say they crave because he is the husband who creates the space for it. Because that’s what he wants. 

While other men cry about posts on facebook ‘putting men down’ he is the man who is providing far more than just money in our marriage. 

While other men don’t want to look in the mirror and try see how they might be the problem – he is actively asking himself how could I do this better? How could I have responded better? What part did I play in this? Self awareness he has in buckets. 

In fact – we both have that. 

We have both been known to say I know what I need to do I just don’t want to right now. 

Those men who say these things might just see the nice things I post about but they don’t see that behind the scenes I’m as stubborn and pigheaded as he is. 

It can be fire and brimstone around here sometimes.

And a man who wants to go with the flow will never be able to contain or provide the safety for the roller coaster.

So before you say I wish I had a wife like yours maybe ask yourself “what kind of man you have to be” to have and keep one.

You have to be a healthy leader and provide healthy leadership to have the feminine wife you think you desire. 

Xo S