Tag: relationships

I am not here for it

You can keep the friendships where you gossip and bitch about others instead of having conversations about what the actual issue is. You can keep the friendships where you feel you need to compete with each other. You can keep the friendships that are only one sided. You can keep the friendships of convenience. I

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Find yourself before getting in a relationship?

If you are in a position to really find yourself before getting involved with another human – amazing! If however, like me, you are already married or in a long term relationship I have something to say to you. (I will use the term marriage from here on) Marriage is the ultimate training ground. And

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I am still learning

I’ve done a lot of ‘work’ on my traumas and self healing. And yet still I find myself choosing to be alone. To process alone. Not reaching out to those I love and trust even though I know they would be there for me. Still putting others needs before my own and not speaking up

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More listening. Less speaking.

Blah blah fucking blah 🗣I’m better than you 🗣You don’t know as much as me 🗣I’m more spiritual than you 🗣I do the real work unlike these other fakes 🗣I can’t believe you act that way when you are supposed to be a role model I’m so over it! You know the sayings I love

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Why do the words Best friend trigger me?

I have come to realise the words best friends and bestie create a reaction in my body now that I had been trying to avoid. I have noticed I have stopped referring to friends as those words. They come with pain and a reminder of hurt for me. And after all, why do we as

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Womb Trauma. Yes it’s real.

I’ve just now realized that the whole 9 months mum spent carrying me were probably spent numb and not wanting to connect just in case the same thing happened again. You see, my mum experienced 9 stillbirths and miscarriages before she had me. She had to grieve that many babies before I arrived. Womb trauma.

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Don’t forget where you started

This is my opinion – take it or leave it… The biggest problem in the world right now is people have forgotten where they came from. We forget that sharing the knowledge we have now, came with all our experiences in life and to get to where we are now we had to go through

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Love Allows

Do you truly understand what it means to say I Love You? Most people confuse need and want with Love. So they don’t really understand what it means to truly love someone. To truly love someone means to allow them to be fully free and allow yourself to be fully free. How many of us

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I take responsibility for my actions. Do you?

How often do you take responsibility for your actions and how they affect others or how you show up? It’s a buzz phrase these days for people to say well I say what I want and how you choose to take that is on you and it’s used as a way of being an ass

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