Tag: relationships

I take responsibility for my actions. Do you?

How often do you take responsibility for your actions and how they affect others or how you show up? It’s a buzz phrase these days for people to say well I say what I want and how you choose to take that is on you and it’s used as a way of being an ass

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I didn’t have the capacity to hold it

For so long I wondered why people lied to me or pulled away. I have always felt I’ve been such an understanding person and I love the ones I love so much there was literally no reason to be ashamed of telling me anything. If you tell me you want something for your life then

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Feedback is your friend

“You feel different”. It’s a comment I receive so regularly now. I’m not really surprised, I am grateful though, when it comes from the people who have been at ground level of my development work because they have seen me warts and all. When it comes from my friends who have been in my life

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2020 taught me this

Do you ever think about how amazing those moments where time doesn’t exist are? Where you are just so in the moment that there is no concept of what the time is or how long it’s been? Do you know how to bring this into your every day living? I get so excited when I

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A witness to love

Have you ever witnessed so much love being poured into a person that the energy is palpable and everyone’s bodies are moving with this energy and emotion is abundant? This energy injects the space with something that cannot be put into words and is an honour to experience and witness. I’ve experienced love in so

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Sovereignty

If you had asked me 10 years ago what I think people might remember me for I never in a million years would have thought someone would think of the word Sovereignty when it came to me. For years I gave away the power over myself to everyone else. You want to have sex with

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Marriage, upgrades and growth

My marriage has recently been going through another upgrade and it hasn’t been fun. Or easy. But then it never is, is it? Both my hubby and I have had tremendous growth over the last couple of years and we finally reached a stalemate again. Neither of us had been willing to budge. If you

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Revisiting my old self

The other night I thought to myself, after hearing numerous times about all the stuff I used to do, that I would give old Shannii a rerun. The Shannii who didn’t speak up and just people pleased because it was just easier. Except this time it wasn’t. And I realized how often I used to

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