Tag: friends

Why do the words Best friend trigger me?

I have come to realise the words best friends and bestie create a reaction in my body now that I had been trying to avoid. I have noticed I have stopped referring to friends as those words. They come with pain and a reminder of hurt for me. And after all, why do we as

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Free – is she free?

Oh to be free, she thought. Like the wind blowing through the trees Or the ocean rolling it’s waves onto the shore. This cage feels dense Heavy and unshakeable Can she break free? Is the cage within her mind able to be broken? Choose, they say, You just have to choose So she chooses Yet

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I didn’t have the capacity to hold it

For so long I wondered why people lied to me or pulled away. I have always felt I’ve been such an understanding person and I love the ones I love so much there was literally no reason to be ashamed of telling me anything. If you tell me you want something for your life then

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No to Societal Conditioning

Societal conditioning tells me that I should be worried. (I’m not) That it’s not ok to have close relationships with the opposite sex. (It is) That you should only get your needs met by your partner. (Nope) I call bullshit. Humans originally were raised in tribes. Where we all lent on each other and had

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Feedback is your friend

“You feel different”. It’s a comment I receive so regularly now. I’m not really surprised, I am grateful though, when it comes from the people who have been at ground level of my development work because they have seen me warts and all. When it comes from my friends who have been in my life

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A witness to love

Have you ever witnessed so much love being poured into a person that the energy is palpable and everyone’s bodies are moving with this energy and emotion is abundant? This energy injects the space with something that cannot be put into words and is an honour to experience and witness. I’ve experienced love in so

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What is a safe space?

It’s virtually impossible to be a strong space holder unless we have others who will hold space for us. We need to know there are some who we can be vulnerable with without fear of being judged. To truly support people we cannot take their power away, instead we get to empower them to make

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