Author: Strong Without Realising

I understand others have not

I have visited with mortality many times and I understand others have not. I have accepted the idea of death, felt it many times in my own body, and are no longer afraid to die and I understand others have not. I have lived off rations of food and survived and I understand others have

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Marriage, upgrades and growth

My marriage has recently been going through another upgrade and it hasn’t been fun. Or easy. But then it never is, is it? Both my hubby and I have had tremendous growth over the last couple of years and we finally reached a stalemate again. Neither of us had been willing to budge. If you

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Revisiting my old self

The other night I thought to myself, after hearing numerous times about all the stuff I used to do, that I would give old Shannii a rerun. The Shannii who didn’t speak up and just people pleased because it was just easier. Except this time it wasn’t. And I realized how often I used to

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Do you think women should dress modestly?

Have you ever considered that you stating women should dress modestly or cover up etc or she is asking to be assaulted, raped or whatever sexual act may occur, may in fact be a part of your protective mechanism or that it gives you a false sense of safety? As if, in some way, if

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Don’t like me?

You may not like the way I operate. And that’s cool. I don’t do it so people will like me. I do it so I will like me. In fact – I love me. I speak my truth because I know how much value my life has been given from witnessing others speak their truth.

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Who are you?

So many people go through life being who they think they are, who others say they are or who they think they should be, when who they truly are is submerged beneath conformity, habit, stereotypes, cultural expectations and other people’s opinions. So ask yourself who you are and assume, just for a minute, that you

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What is a safe space?

It’s virtually impossible to be a strong space holder unless we have others who will hold space for us. We need to know there are some who we can be vulnerable with without fear of being judged. To truly support people we cannot take their power away, instead we get to empower them to make

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The Infinite Human

The other week I sat in a ceremony which was everything I asked for and more. My life contract being fulfilled in what was peaceful, and yet not so peaceful, moments in time. Held by a man I trust with my life and my beautiful soul sisters who I know can hold me through anything.

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Few People Truly Understand

Few people truly understand what it really means to be there for somebody. Few people understand what it’s like to truly give away all that I have within. Realizing that not everybody is built to handle the rough times with me has been eye opening. Knowing I always get to choose to move forward yet

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You – Only You

I can’t save you I can’t heal you I can’t lead you into the heavens I can’t take you into the depths I can’t make you swim in the whirlpools of consciousness I can’t make you open your eyes to the horrors affecting others I can’t do anything FOR you Except be ME ME in

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