Tag: marriage

Why Is Being in a Loving, Long-Lasting Relationship Considered “Not Living” These Days?

It’s something that’s been weighing on my heart lately, especially because my own children have found love young, and it’s beautiful. But I keep hearing, “They’re too young to settle down,” or “They should be out there living their lives!” And it leaves me wondering—why do so many people think that being in a committed,

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What Am I Going To Do With The Rest Of My Life?

Unexpected life changes. Anticipated transitions. Long, sleepless nights. What do these three things have in common? The ability to provoke one of the most haunting questions in the library of human introspectives: “What on earth am I going to do with the rest of my life?” While I can’t answer this question for anyone other

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Boundaryless?

Being boundaryless is really fucking sexy. Before you get triggered read on… My husband is the ONLY man I will ever be boundaryless for. He is the only one who has earned the level of trust and safety it takes to feel that with a man. Do I believe women shouldn’t have boundaries with men?

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Witnessing our children in love

Witnessing my children in their own adult loving relationships is a gift I had no idea I could love so much. Knowing that the way Rory and I have loved each other throughout their years of growing up ultimately has had an impact on who they choose to be in relationship with and how they

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Pegging equals power? Not for me.

Years ago my husband offered to let me peg him because he had read some studies about how it helps women who have been sexually assaulted get their power back. I even bought a strap on. But I never could bring myself to even think about it. The idea of needing to have power over

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What isn’t shared

There is so much in our relationship that isn’t shared. My devotion and surrender didn’t come from nowhere. In fact I fought it tooth and nail really. I would allow and then let fear kick in and pull back and away. And in that Rory would go through his growth and change and playing in

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The pendulum swing

When I hear people say they can’t feel my husband because he doesn’t share his deepest feelings on Facebook it only tells me how little they actually know him. If you were at our vow renewal last year you know exactly what im talking about. You can see a small snippet via the photos even.

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For the people who ask what makes our relationship last

Recently I have been experiencing another death and rebirth of my marriage. The ever falling away and new things being introduced. This called for me to stand in a power that I don’t normally stand in because I don’t need to. It called for my husband to stand back, stand up and step in, in

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Isn’t human attraction fascinating?

Human attraction has always fascinated me. I’ve always loved how we all find our own things that we are attracted to. Forgetting all the masc/fem stories and games and rules and what not that float around. I’ve always been an energy type person. I’ve had crushes on those who were considered the ‘hot’ guys but

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