Ultimately I believe that our life purpose is to be who we are. We came here to be that person.
However it can be a journey to get to this realization and I will never tell you to forgo that journey.
With that being said – Trying to determine what our purpose is in life can be one of the hardest questions that we as humans ever try to answer.
So I thought I would share a step by step process, where you can explore your feelings and options, and by the end, you may have a fairly solid idea you can put into action in your life, to help give it a meaningful direction.
These 3 steps to the process of discovering the purpose of your life are as follows:
- Understanding the principle of choice
- Creating your “underlying principle”
- Aligning your life with this underlying principle
1.Understanding The Principle of Choice
Norman Vincent Peale has this to say about the power of choice. “The greatest power we have is the power of choice. It is an actual fact, that if you have been groping under unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous, instead. And, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. The whole trend and the quality of anyone’s life is determined by the choices that are made”.
“Choosing” is the one of, if not the, most important activity of your mind.
When you make a choice, you are proclaiming your desires to your subconscious mind. Once the subconscious mind gets to know your desires, it is going to do anything to manifest them in your life. The choices you make in your life become your goal. And, if you are sincere in pursuing them, there is no reason why you will not accomplish them.
Indecision, on the other hand, can create frustration and anxiety, and can also confuse the subconscious mind about what you want. But it is important that the choices you make are made by you, following your true desires.
A lot of us let others make choices for us, or make our choices according to what we think is ‘correct’, even if that means that we go against our own wishes.
A statement I always love to say is “What is right for someone else may not be right for you” and the way to know this is listening to what your heart says.
So, to begin with:
- Make a list of things which interest you
- Things you truly enjoy
- Things that make you feel better
- Things that inspire you to move forward
- These could be creative and artistic, maybe you enjoy nature, or the ocean, maybe it’s helping others, or maybe you enjoy making a difference in other peoples lives.
Whatever it is that interests you, write it down and answer these questions:
- What ‘thing’ do you love to do?
- What is it that you love in this ‘thing’ and why?
- How could you do this for money, and make a living out of it?
2.Creating Your Underlying Principle
The next step is to examine the list you just made and find out if there is any recurring theme.
Maybe, it is the contribution that keeps coming up, or a desire to seek or give love, or helping your parents cope with old age.
Whatever it is, try to identify the central theme of the things you love to do, and try to put it in a short and precise statement. This will be your ‘Mission Statement’. It may even be a quote by a famous person, or a philosophy that has influenced you.
Now, write down your Mission Statement.
3.Aligning Your LIFE With Your Underlying Principle
The final step in this journey is to map your path and to begin implementing the changes that help to align your daily life with your underlying purpose.
By making these little changes in your lifestyle, you will start to be able to live this principle out each and every day.
It might take a few days, but by becoming aware and intentional of this underlying principle of your life, you will certainly start to feel the difference in your enthusiasm for life as a whole.
If you realize that you love being amidst nature, plan out your holiday. Maybe an outing with your children could be enough to recoup your energy. If you discover that you enjoy helping those in need, start to look for opportunities to volunteer in your community. On the other hand, you might even want to change your job, or start a new business that is more in line with your mission.
Personally I love to combine my love of nature with volunteering, and have often traveled to different countries to fulfill this need. Although since covid it has been almost 4 years since I was able to do this.
Now, if you connect with the steps outlined above, you will be on your way to finding and living out your purpose. And, as you go through this process, just remember,
You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.Steve Maraboli
I would love it if you shared below what conclusion you may have come to after following the steps in this post.