Natural state of Joy

I remember so many times seeing this quote about how our natural state is joy and being in another state is not who we are meant to be.

I never believed it. My life since I was a teenager and my natural state was definitely not joy. I had joyful moments but it was most definitely not my natural state.

If you had asked me a few years ago, or even a year ago, if I thought I could be living happy and carefree and enjoying my life with no limitations I would have scoffed at you. I still sometimes can’t believe that I can come back from suicidal thoughts to this state.

I never realised it was myself holding me back. I never realised how many limiting beliefs I had placed on myself. I never understood I was holding myself back from being happy because it scared me. I was always so scared that my happiness would just be taken away that I robbed myself of feeling it.

That’s not to say I haven’t nor will never have anymore bad days but I’ve learnt to just be, just be me. I’ve accepted me for all that I was and all that I could be.

I don’t know if you realise how scary that actually is? To be living my authentic life being the person I am.

I now know that bad days will come but they will also go. Who would have thought that would be a lesson I needed to learn?

There is another saying about the more we are loved for who we are not ingrains that who we truly are is not loveable. How many of you can say this is what holds you back?

I am introverted, and I spent so long saying I hate humans. I never realised that was also holding me back from having deep connections with others. What I was projecting out into the world was coming back to me.

Ever since my mentor Abergale Bremner told me I was limiting myself, my world has opened up. I’ve met so many amazing people and I wonder who I will meet in the future. There is seriously no stopping me now.

What can you do today that will open up yourself to new opportunities?

Yesterday I attended the Minding Her Business networking event alone. I never would have done that by choice in the past. But I’m so glad I did. I didn’t let my limiting belief of being an introvert and unable to meet people and have good conversations instead of surface level ones stop me. I didn’t let my stomach having a panic attack stop me. And I’m so glad I didn’t.

Lean into your edges today and do something that scares you. You might surprise yourself with what you learn.

Xo S