Today is my 6 year wedding anniversary and in honour I thought I would write an open letter to my husband.
In the 10 years we have been together the biggest lesson we have learnt has been that love isn’t a feeling, it’s a choice. There have been times when we have not wanted to choose each other, and haven’t chosen each other, but in the moments that we did our relationship grew.
We have been here, there and everywhere relationship wise. We have wanted to give up and cut the cords and say enough is enough. But in the end we go away and come back and we say to each other is that what we really want? The answer has obviously been no since we are now celebrating our 6th wedding anniversary.
Over the years I’ve become more private about my life because I got sick of people having their say, but whether we share our life or not people will always have their say. The things you share online are only such a small part of the things you have said in private.
Every day we continue to choose each other, even on the days we really don’t want to and that’s the biggest relationship saver anyone can learn. You choose whether you want to make the effort, it’s always up to you. We have both taught each other so much about forgiveness over the years, some people would say we are crazy but not a single person can ever take away the effort we have both put in to get to where we are now.
We stand together most of the time, and the times that we don’t we learn about each other and still take the lesson that comes with it. They say if you have ever hated your partner then you can’t truly love them, so I don’t know what we have then, or maybe that means we didn’t truly hate each other. I know there was definitely resentment. But whatever we have works for us and that is all that really matters.
As long as we are happy and keep communicating and living this life we have created, even if we aren’t happy 100% of the time, then I think we have what it takes to make it another 50 years.
The balance we have found is more important than anything else. Life is all about balance. Relationships are meant to be lived by two individuals, not two halves. I hate that saying you complete me, because you don’t, I can only complete myself and you allow me to be myself and even though I’m still learning and growing, so are you and we continue to do so every day.
People are always bought into our lives for a reason, sometimes you can’t tell what that reason is, but when it comes to us I know, without you, I wouldn’t be the closest I’ve ever been to myself.
Gravity is real and no matter where our paths lead we will always gravitate towards each other.
So Happy 6th Wedding anniversary, and a happy 10 years together. We have made it to double digits, who would have ever thought that night we met in the nightclub we would end up here.