I believe in the village and I get to be it

Stay at home mum supported by partner/husband = ewww gross she must be so bored.

Stay at home mum being a boss babe earning money – woooo baby celebrating you.

What’s the difference? Why is one celebrated more than the other?

Why such apparent despise for a woman who is supported in her journey by a husband?

Why are the statements of what if it doesn’t work out being thrown around? Telling women they need to have a safety mechanism in case it happens.

Is it just wounded women who decided to leave a partnership saying these things?

Is it just jealousy for what some don’t have?

Does one need to be celebrated more to make others feel ok?

Has feminism really gone so far to push women who are supported by a husband into a bracket that is uncelebrated? And told they are going to regret it if they don’t have a back up plan.

Why?

Personally I don’t plan to fail in my marriage. And yet if it did I know I would be fine. I’ve done it once before and I could easily do it again.

It’s interesting to me that as I sit here with my gorgeous granddaughter napping on me because it’s what she wanted and she gets to have it, that I find myself thinking I NEED to be doing something around my house.

I’ve been blessed with the ability to be a SAHM for my kids for the majority of their lives.

Working for my older two first few years of their lives out of need but once my youngest was born only working when I chose to.

3 businesses I’ve managed over the years since he was born. All of which did well and profited. But blurck is what I say to them. That was some of the most stressed out times of my life.

I can only think that somewhere in my subconscious I have let words of others who have said that being at home is doing nothing, and that if you aren’t working you are doing nothing, filter in.

That thought makes me sad.

I know what I contribute, have contributed and will contribute. Yet that thought must exist in me for me to be feeling it.

And let’s face it – not everything I’ve contributed has been positive. Because I’m human and I make mistakes.

Let’s celebrate anyone who chooses to be a stay at home Mum whether supported by herself or supported by her husband.

Because ultimately it’s the children who win.

And right now my children and grandchildren win because I have the space to do this 😍❤️ (side note: this isn’t saying working mums that can’t stay at home aren’t the bomb too. Just speaking to what I’ve seen recently online being celebrated and also not celebrated)

When I was asked if I ever get bored last weekend, it was so nice to be able to say No I don’t. I literally live the life I love and love the life I live.

Have I always appreciated it? No. Clinical Depression will have you believing pretty horrible stuff. But even while surviving instead of thriving I managed, thankfully.

So today I celebrate all mothers. However you choose to do motherhood.

I love the way I have chosen to do it and when doubt creeps in I shall remind myself of this.

We all get to live our lives how we choose to in the best way that has us living in joy.

When we are the best of ourselves our children get the best of us too.

Let’s stop putting down the ‘other’ to say our way is the better way.

As women it’s far better to be lifting each other up than saying we need to change.

I get to be part of my childrens village in a deeper way than I ever imagined I would be. And I couldn’t imagine anything more special than that for me.

Xo S