By Maybe my kids are happy to be in long term relationships and desire it because they have seen their parents in a healthy one and know what it looks like and that it’s not the end of the world.
Maybe my children want children young because they haven’t heard us say that they ruined our lives but instead how they enriched them and made our lives better so they know that having children doesn’t mean their life is over.
I truly, honestly, feel for the children who have to hear their parents speak about how they ruined their lives or held them back.
I truly, honestly, feel for the children whose parents are parenting from the trauma from their own relationship choices instead of just allowing them to move in their own lives and make their own choices.
My kids saw a failed marriage when they were young and a healthy one.
We have raised them to know nothing in life is perfect and how with the right communication anything can be overcome.
We have shown them what an imperfect human living their life looks like.
We have shown them no matter what they can come to us and we will be honest without judgement.
Even if we have had blow ups they have always known we come from a place of love, not manipulation.
Just because your relationship failed or your parenting was hard it doesn’t mean their life will be the same.
Stop pushing your own failures and what you want onto your kids.
They aren’t you.
It’s a sure fire way to have them exit stage left from your life one day.
Xo S
Shannii Maree - Strong Without Realising 